A lot has happened in the month since my last coaching letter. The biggest change of course being the arrival of our third child and first daughter:-) No wonder then that the content this time was inspired by her. Below is picture of me after our first night together. Tired and happy in a sweet mix…
Also, want to announce that it’s now official: I will be inspiring and changing lives for real at Elevate 2016 in Copenhagen, Nov. 11-13. It will be a fantastic week-end with among others my friend, and marketing expert extraordinaire, Eric Edmeades.
Furthermore, if you use this link http://elevateeverything.com/#affiliate=lifevision and add the promo code ”Special10” within the next 10 days you’ll get a 26% discount on your ticket! Just my way of saying I want to see you there 🙂 You will be glad you came:-) Looking forward to it.
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Quote of the month
" It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see. "
- Henry David Thoreau
Do you need kinder eyes?
Two weeks ago we became the proud parents of our baby girl Elodie (pronounced like Melody without the ”M”:-) To have the opportunity to once again experience the miracle of life is amazing. Especially since losing yourself in the moment with a baby is one of the surest ways to rekindle the contact with the behind the scenes life-force that we all have in common. It’s an elixir and a heart opening quickening for even the most sleep deprived of parents.
As I reflect on that feeling now, I cannot think of anything that we wouldn’t do better from that feeling. Best of all is that that feeling is available to all of us at any moment. You don’t have to hang out with your own newborn baby to have it flow forth. It’s coming from within and there’s nothing to do or add to have it. All it takes is for us to stop blocking it due to our innocent misunderstanding of where our experience of life comes from.
Because as soon as you understand that it’s always there as a default setting for us all, the natural question to ask is neither: ”How do get to it?” nor is it ”How do I have more often? No, then it becomes: What’s keeping me from feeling that natural aliveness of our life-force? Now, that is the central question for both my personal coaching and when inspiring bigger groups at seminars. Because if you reflect on that it will lead to a truth for us all, which is that, it’s our own thinking in the moment that’s in the way.
Now, that’s a big insight. Because nothing has more real leverage for realizing your potential than seeing that we all live in a thought created experience of life in each and every moment. That if it weren’t for us taking our insecure, stressed and anxious thoughts seriously we would have access to our best resources automatically. I.e. in the same instant we see through our own thinking our ever present life-force stops being blocked and, as we see clearly, have just as much common sense and wisdom as anybody else.
The challenge is that when don’t see it as something that’s in the way, rather that there is something we need to add, it feels like common sense to think ”harder” to get there. But since it’s innate you cannot think your way to wisdom and common sense. In the same way that cannot think your way out of thinking too much. Because it is literally your thinking that’s in the way and what you’re searching for is hiding right there behind it in plain sight.
This is the reason that everybody has noticed that as soon as their mind clears they have access to totally different resources. In a mostly imperceptible blink of an eye we are suddenly more caring, creative, loving, smart, flexible, humorous… the list of positive traits that we all have as this happens goes on, but will contain whatever you need in that moment. Independent of whatever circumstances you happen to find yourself in. May it be performing at your best in an athletic event, finding the right words at a business meeting or lovingly correct an unruly child.
As you bring a nicer feeling to a situation you not only get access to your own best resources, you effortlessly tease the best out of others too. It’s almost magical how easily and naturally this happens, but it’s simply how it works as nothing is as contagious as being close to someone in contact with this formless source of wisdom, common sense, balance and clarity common to us all. That’s why babies can have the effect they have on us despite sleeping and without saying a word.
If you understand something for yourself about what my baby daughter inspired me to point to here, you will find that all that’s needed to take your thinking less seriously is a moment of consciousness. Even, or if you truly understand especially, when the feeling your thinking is coming with is strong. Because, as you are able to wake yourself out of your thinking it becomes possible to ever more often act out of a nicer feeling. Furthermore, that clarity and mental balance becomes highly contagious to anybody you have the privilege to influence.
This makes a bigger difference than you might think. It will be like the difference of raising your children with irritation or annoyance in the pit of your stomach compared to acting with the feeling you have when you watch them sleep. From that feeling you don’t need any parenting advice to be a ”gold star parent”. Without it you can read a thousand parenting books and nothing will really change – there will still be shouting, pouting, resisting and banging of doors.
If you cannot relate to that metaphor then find another time where you’ve seen something with ”kind eyes”. The difference is equally dramatic in any meeting both with others and yourself, in business and in private. That’s why as you more often start seeing your thinking for what it is and have a healthier relationship to it, the thought created obstacles between having contact with our common life-force starts dissolving. Your days begin to be what you hoped for them to be even when they don’t go as planned. May that bring you hope not only for your month ahead, but for all our future…
This is a little gem of a book. Michael asked me to write a testimonial for the book and I’ll use it here in the hope that it helps you make the decision to not only buy the book but to read it immediately:
”Anyone who has been touched by what Michael Neill is pointing to in this book is eternally grateful to whomever nudged them in this direction. For me that person happens to be Michael back in 2009. Here he beautifully shares the human ”ground zero” of how we all create our experience of life. In a simple, yet profound, way that gives you a chance for a better understanding of human psychology. Don’t be surprised if it has you falling deeply in love with your life and living all over again. Because that’s what’s on offer on the pages of this book. So, don’t just read it. Let the words on its pages shower your mind like your favorite music and chances are you too will be seeing something wonderful that really makes a difference for you. This really is it!”
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